Friendship

The hermeneutic of suspicion, scandalising middle-class Vienna, David and Jonathan, and red flags

Somebody once said that in contemporary society we all want to ‘have sex with our friends, and be friends with our sexual partners’. There is a broad suspicion of intimate but non-sexual friendships, especially those which are intergenerational or cross the sexes. We are all supposed to be too cynical to believe that people might just be friends – surely it’s actually all about sex and power in some way? In this episode we try to unpick where the denigration of friendship came from in the modern Western world, and explore what impact this has on the Christian ideal of friendship.

God’s understanding of friendship is very different to the sexualised and suspicious framework society now inhabits. In this second part of our conversation on friendship we take a lightning-quick tour through the Bible to consider what we can learn about friendship there – with God, between God’s people, and fundamentally lived out in the life of Jesus. What are the key themes which define a contemporary gospel-spared friendship today? Is it realistic to try to reimagine friendship in this way in the 21st-century? And what are the signs we should be looking out for which suggest a relationship may not be in line with this scriptural vision?

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